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14 Unique Problems Empaths Experience

14 Unique Problems Empaths Experience

Empaths have been blessed to deeply experience the feelings of others, but can be a gift that is tough to manage.  Having a high sensitivity to emotions and energy fluctuations allow empaths to be nurturing, caring and kind to those in need.  They are the first person someone will turn to for either advice or a shoulder to lean on.  It seems like they truly understand a person’s problems because the due through their ability to feel another being’s perspective.

However, empaths must work hard at managing their experience.  Society frequently doesn’t value their unique skills and as such empaths can feel lost in the system as well as overwhelm easily due to stimulation overload.  We have compiled a list of 14 issues that empaths face and some helpful tips on how to deal with each one.

  1. People emotions quickly alters yours

A day might start out great, but upon interacting with a friend dealing with some heavy pain can bring your mood crashing down.  It might seem like instantly your smile has vanished and feelings of frustration or lost crop up almost immediately.  Realize this pain is not yours to carry.  Set boundaries for both your friend and yourself to ensure the proper emotions remain with the owner.  Sure, you can be compassionate to their struggles, but not at your own expense.

  1. Persistent fatigue

When you carry an excess of emotions it can quickly drain your energy.  This includes both abundance of sadness or joy.  Work to mindfully manage your emotions and practice ample self-care.  It can be helpful to practice energetic cleansing rituals when you take a bath or shower.

  1. Being seen as “overly” …

Does it seem like daily you are told that you are “too much” or “overly sensitive?”  To empaths this gets frustrating because we don’t understand why people aren’t on our levels of caring.  Realize you need to live life on your terms and discover what level of compassion for others is healthiest for you.  Sure, you want to save the world, but not if puts your wellbeing in jeopardy.

  1. Feeling caught between two worlds

Although to the outside world it might seem like you are an extrovert, empaths need a lot of restorative alone time to defrag their emotions and energy levels.  Also, at times they might seem like introvert because empaths avoid high energy places like shopping centers, noisy establishments or public transportation.  Without some “me time,” empath risk absorbing too much stimuli from other people and putting their health at risk.  By committing to maintain healthy relationship you can ensure you be a rock-solid support system for anyone or any cause that matters to you.  If you want to interact with loved one consider more low-key environments like a home, walking in nature or going to quaint and cozy café.

  1. Needing alone time regardless of what people might think

It can’t be said enough the importance of time by yourself.  It will help you recharge, filter the various emotions or energies, and tune into your inner wisdom.  People may or may not understand this need of yours.  This is okay.  Feel free to have conversations with people about why time alone is essential to your self-care and how it helps you be a better supporter of theirs.

  1. Issues with transitions

It can quite difficult for an empath to switch environments or suddenly adjust to a person entering a room.  Pay attention to if you feel off after leaving a loud gathering or quickly entering a noiseless room.  Allow yourself to release any judgments you might have about difficulty with transitions and any assorted emotions that arise, you aren’t alone in this situation.

  1. History of anxiety or depression

Empaths can have trouble managing their mental health due to their highly sensitive nature.  This includes persistent self-doubt, stress, anxiety and even physical manifestation.  This is because empaths must process not just their emotions, but the emotions and energies of other beings.  When not managed properly it can feel so exhausting and even debilitating.  It can be especially difficult to process negative feedback from anyone person because it feels so personal.  Furthermore, empaths frequently report feeling unlike anyone else in their life, which can promote a sense of isolation.  Realize there are other empaths out there, your experience matters and you must advocate for you needs and wellbeing.

  1. You sense subtle shifts

Empaths can easily sense a shift in mood, often even before that person has time to voice their issue.  This can be both a blessing and a hinderance.  You can provide immediate attention, but it can also make it hard for you to enjoy a causal time out.  Set boundaries within yourself so you can provide care, but allow experience some joy and fun.

  1. Getting manipulated

Intuition is essential for an empath.  Gut reactions can protect them from people will malevolent intentions.  However, people can take advantage of an empath’s skills whether consciously or subconsciously.  Be aware of signs that people may be unhealthy for you.

  1. Minor things can feel major to you

Caring is a cornerstone of any empath.  There is no small or big issue, everything matters.  Pay no attention to the people that don’t understand and want you to get “over it.”  Do what feels healthy and fulfilling to you.

  1. Prioritizing other’s needs ahead of your own

Empaths want to be of service to others.  Whether its helping people heal, or being there to listen or strategize with them, empaths are giving people.  However, it does you no good if you spend all your energy and leave little to none left for your benefit.  Instead, choose to include self-care as one of your prioritizations.  Remember the adage of the oxygen mask.  You have to put it on yourself before you can place it on anyone else.

  1. Trouble saying “no”

Saying “no” can make an empath feel guilty.  They fear letting a person down or causing them any distress.  In the moment, saying “yes” feeling vital to helping someone else feel good.  Be careful because by not occasionally saying “no” you risk getting overwhelmed and exhausted.

  1. Violence and tragedy are profoundly disturbing

Some, but not all empaths are confused by people’s fascination with horror, violence and tragedy.  Whether fictional or reality, negative scenes can rattle an empaths core for hours or days after exposure.

  1. Difficulty with ownership of emotions

This is the key challenge for empaths.  When you constantly assume emotions and energy, it hard to know from whom you are feeling this sensation.  This can complicate decision making and could lead to potential misunderstandings if not handled with care.

Reasons Why Psychics Use the Term ‘Intuitives”

Reasons Why Psychics Use the Term 'Intuitives

You may see the word “intuitive” to describe psychics online or in-person these days. More and more with psychic abilities are changing the language to call themselves intuitive instead. There may be those who wonder why.

Modern Approaches

Psychics use much more than natural mental abilities to answer questions. They also have tools such as tarot cards, angel cards, or even the Runes. These things help them channel energy to create a path for guidance. The guidance given through these methods is then practically applied by the psychic to apply it to real-life thoughts, feelings, and experiences.

Psychics are changing their image to those on the internet to include more than just claims of a higher mental power to reach those who are more skeptical in the digital age. The word intuitive works better to include all these methods.

The History of Words

One reason psychics want to rebrand their abilities is simply how the world has changed in its views of spiritual aspects. The term “psychic” tends to conjecture up images of a fortune-teller or some other sketchy person in a backwoods home providing readings by candlelight.

In actually, many psychics have their own business and operate on the internet and with remote readings as much as in person.

The word psychic is one in a long line of retired words in their realm. Words like a seer, soothsayer, oracle, prophetess, and others are not used as they once word.

Seer and soothsayer refer to those who see the truth or the future of reality but stem from the 14th to 17th centuries. Oracle and prophetess date back to ancient times. The Latin term of oracle goes back to before Christ when Greeks traveled to the Delphic Oracle to seek guidance. There they would make animal sacrifices to seek grace from the Oracle to provoke them to answer their questions.

Fortune-teller was used in the late 16th century but is now reserved for those providing entertainment along a boardwalk.

The Rise of Self Empowerment

It used to be that psychics were considered gifted with special powers. Their abilities were a gift from the gods. Today, most psychics and spiritualists believe that everyone has these powers but they remain latent because humans aren’t trained to awaken and use them.

So, psychic powers are now seen as more normal. Updating it to modern society, they are rebranded as intuitive or empathic. Changing the terminology to remove true psychics from past perceptions and imagery helps move universal energy positively into the future.

Making it more comfortable for people to explore these gifts will allow seekers to get the answers and healing they need. It will also empower them to use their latent abilities to move through the future.

Understanding Cosmic Love

Understanding Cosmic Love

Cosmic Love is based in the concept that each day, every person makes a unique decision about how radically love.  This involves what forms it takes, whom to love and how to promote it to the rest of the Universe.  It highlights the importance of love and how people recognize and experience it throughout their life.

Some people view Cosmic Love as the profound emotions we feel for someone we care deeply about, especially in a romantic lens.  To these folks, it harkens to emotions of such immense height that is feels unending or overwhelmingly captivating.  Others might see Cosmic Love as the effort to produce a love that is all encompassing and aspiring to become the most loving person in the universe.  Regardless, it speaks to the desire to love and be loved as a core component of humanity.

What basis for Cosmic Love exists in reality?

One can view Cosmic Love through the lens of Zen traditions or astrology as a means to gain enlightenment.  Zen strives to harmonize your energy levels with the Universe through an array of daily meditative practices.  Whereas astrology helps you understand the way you interact with the world around you.

Those who believe in God might investigate how Divine love relates to Cosmic Love since unlike love between people there is no perceptive of a transaction exchange. Both Divine and Cosmic Love are rooted in the concept that love freely exists in all things and is pure in nature.  Take for example the phrase “God is Love” and how it can convey God’s unwavering presence in one’s live, the Divine’s all-encompassing passion and empathy, and how love exists in all places at all times.

For those who live life to serve God, love may be viewed as transpersonal.  It is inconsequently the quality of your day since God will always provide blessings for you.  No matter how you refer to “God,” the concept of a benevolent entity dovetails with the notion of Cosmic Love.  This experience requires little effort to experience love since love that is spiritual drives your internal barometer of self-worth.  For example, you don’t need to “date” God to know Divine love.  You simply need to ensure the condition of your wellbeing through mindfulness and focus on your commitment to personal identity and spiritual growth.  Cosmic Love is the quest for eternal truth in both your spiritual and physical life.  It harnesses the spiritual energies the swirl among us and can imbibe you with a sense of deep love for yourself, euphoria and enhanced to connection to everything in life.

As you delve deeper into Cosmic Love, you’ll find it serves to heal and grow your essence rather that be an exchange of affection between two entities.  A love that is cosmic or eternal serves to remove any feeling of distance from another living or spiritual being.  You instead experience the strength and passion that resides deep in your core spirit.

Does Cosmic Love Endure?

Cosmic Love can have an astrological value which can predict how compatible two people can be in a relationship.  Although some may dismiss this notion, if two people can appreciate the way each other processes difference in beliefs, points of view or goals, then it could be seen as a test of compatibility.  For example, if a couple is trying to determine their connection, how they view Cosmic Love and how it aligns with one another’s view could be a key factor of their compatibility.

Sure, Cosmic Love is not the same things as romantic love.  But frank discussion on view points on Cosmic Love can be telling about how each other views spirituality.  Any couple who wants their love to last must balance the needs of physical intimacy with spiritual development.  Other factors of personality connections exist such as using knowledge, understand and belief systems to determine the strength of a union.  Although it seems natural to believe the one with are with romantic was “destined” for us, it is clear substantial work must bee accomplished by both partners to ensure a strong, healthy, and fulfilling long-term relationship can thrive.

Developing Psychic Clairs with Zener Cards

Zener Cards

Developing psychic abilities can be a fun part of the journey, especially if you use Zener cards. Zener cards can be used to increase psychic abilities while having a bit of fun along the way. Below explains all you need to know.

What You Need

Zener Cards – Zener cards can be found online, but you can also make your own from index cards. If making your own, make three cards each of the following symbols for a total of at least 15. (square, circle, star, plus sign, and wavy lines) These are fine in black or colors.

A Friend – You need someone to help you practice, but if they are not close by, have access to something like Zoom or FaceTime.

Open Mind – Developing psychic abilities is meant to be fun, so if you are feeling pressure, back off for a bit.

Essential Oils – Oils are optional, but if you choose to use them, try something conducive to psychic energy like rose, cedarwood, or lemon.

Getting Started

Once you are ready, dive in. Each exercise begins the same way.

Set an Intention – The first thing to o is set a good intention for both you and your friend. Invite the spirit guides and angels to help.

Positioning – set your friend and yourself across from one another or across the screen if online. This is a telepathic activity. So, being in the same room or across the world works.

Get Started – Each person can take turns being the sender and receiver if desired.

Clairvoyance Exercise

The sender’s job is to transmit the card pulled to their partner without words. This is ESP. So, draw a card, close your eyes, and imagine the symbol being sent to your friend’s mind’s eye. If it is helpful, imagine waves being transmitted. Hold the image for ten seconds and ask your friend what was received. This can take time so do not worry if you get the giggles at first.

As the receiver, take a few deep breaths to focus energy on the third eye. Allow yourself to receive whichever symbol comes. You will likely receive a picture. Do not second guess yourself, just allow it to form in your mind. Make sure your mind stays clear when practicing.

Clairaudience Exercise

Using the same method as above do the same things except think of and send a word instead of a picture. The sender will repeatedly think of the word to represent the card as the receiver waits to hear it in their own voice. One moment you may be thinking of your grocery list while the next the word star or circle will pop into your head.

Clairsentience Exercise

To use Zener cards to increase clairsentience, you will need to transmit feelings. Once the card is drawn, focus on the card and the feel of the shape. Certain shapes will make you feel or remind you of different things. The wavy lines may make you think of the beach. Let the mind wander and telepathically send the feeling to your friend. For the receiver, imagine how your friend may feel after drawing certain cards. Do not use logic, just gut feelings.

Claircognizance Exercise

The key to developing psychic knowing is speed. This is a lightning round that should be tried without logic. The sender should draw and look at a card. As soon as the receiver calls out an answer, put the card face down and repeat through each card. No feedback should be offered until all the cards have been ”transmitted”. For the receiver, there is no logical reason to know which card was drawn, but you likely do. Just blurt out an answer without second guessing. The point is to exercise is to open up abilities and learn to feel things. Keep it positive and go through the cards around three times before offering any feedback.

Tips and Tricks

These are fun exercises that should be practiced, but taken as something fun. Even if you are not getting 100% correct, you are opening up. If by chance you cannot find your stride, try the following.

Take Turns – Make sure you take turns as both sender and receiver

Notes – As you practice, you will see pattern developing. You may be better at sending or receiving. Remember, there are 4 main psychic gifts, so find what works best with you.

Practice – This takes time so work with your gifts and allow yourself time to grow.

Empaths and Vampires

Empaths and Vampires

An emotional vampire is a person that is toxic to us and that will drain us of all the positive energies that we have and leave us feeling tired, depressed and worried.  They are able to feed off of our emotions in order to help them feel better.

When there is a person that is an empath, he or she will be very sensitive, and they are mostly targeted by emotional vampires because their emotions are so strong.

An emotional vampire is a toxic person that causes us to be unsafe and causes us to not have enough self-care in order to be around them.  An empath can leave feeling anxious and depressed or even scared.  They cause people to lose their mental being and to have strong emotions that become negative over time.

A narcissist or a sociopath is an emotional vampire and they use their psychological mindset to hurt others, and they tend to be self-centered and only care about what they are feeling.

An empath is highly sensitive and when they are around these types of people it can cause them to leave feeling terrible and drained.  Sometimes, they even feel sick.

Signs

There are many signs that you have to watch out for when dealing with an emotional vampire.

Depleting You

Being around someone is toxic can cause you to feel bad and can cause you to feel that you are sick, and you are upset.  They can come out of nowhere.

They will take what you have and give you their hopelessness and they will have no empathy for what they are doing to you.  They will take your energy and you will no longer be able to focus on positive things.

These people want to manipulate you and make you do things for them and meet just their needs.

Presence in Affect

Even when you are done talking or being around an energy vampire, their draining powers stay on you.  They will leave you feeling emotionally tired and they will cause you to question who you are.  They will use drama and their mindset to leave you depressed and down.

Energetic

After you are away from an energy vampire for a while, you will find that you are able to recoup.  You will feel that you have a weight lifted off of your shoulders and you will feel renewed and better.  If you do find that you have to interact with them again, you will not be able to deal with their chaos.

Small Conversations

Even the tiniest conversations leave you feeling confused and upset.  They will not take responsibility for their actions and they refuse to answer you with real answers.  They have no respect for you and are defensive when you say something about their behavior.

Toxicity

An emotional vampire will feed off of your positive energy and make you feel like you have lost all good things about yourself.  You will not longer have self-confidence and you will feel sadness instead of joy.

An energy vampire can turn you into an energy vampire by their actions, just like a real vampire can turn a person into a vampire.  The more you are around their toxic behavior, the worse things will get and the more emotional you will be.

When someone is a victim of a narcissist, they will see the toxic traits that that person has. An empath has the hardest time dealing with toxic behavior and they will be the prey to the predator when they deal with these types of people.

Filling Their Own Needs

An emotional vampire will only be one sided meaning that they only care about themselves.  They will be happy when they take over the conversation and turn it into something negative.  They will never consider how you feel, and they will try to control everything that is going on in the room.

Sabotage

Emotional vampires want to cause you to be a victim.  They know that you have things in order in your life and they are jealous of this.  They want to have what you have, and they want to do away with your success instead of celebrating it.

Ploys and Schemes

These people can do something to try to ruin you such as praising someone other than you and attempting to hide the good things about you.  They will make a name for who they are and will take the spotlight from you or anyone that is good.

What to Do

When you are part of an emotional vampire’s life, you have to make sure to cut them off as much as you can.  Do not be in contact with them and stop going around them.  This can help you to be free from them emotionally.

Don’t reason with these types of people because it will never work.  When you have experienced them, do something that will give you life such as go for a walk, go into nature, take a workout class or do whatever you can to reach your goals, dreams and your happiness.

Detox yourself from these types of people and hang out with people that are really your friends and not people that want to steal your joy.

Empaths and Vampires

Empaths and Vampires

An emotional vampire is a person that is toxic to us and that will drain us of all the positive energies that we have and leave us feeling tired, depressed and worried.  They are able to feed off of our emotions in order to help them feel better.

When there is a person that is an empath, he or she will be very sensitive, and they are mostly targeted by emotional vampires because their emotions are so strong.

An emotional vampire is a toxic person that causes us to be unsafe and causes us to not have enough self-care in order to be around them.  An empath can leave feeling anxious and depressed or even scared.  They cause people to lose their mental being and to have strong emotions that become negative over time.

A narcissist or a sociopath is an emotional vampire and they use their psychological mindset to hurt others, and they tend to be self-centered and only care about what they are feeling.

An empath is highly sensitive and when they are around these types of people it can cause them to leave feeling terrible and drained.  Sometimes, they even feel sick.

Signs

There are many signs that you have to watch out for when dealing with an emotional vampire.

Depleting You

Being around someone is toxic can cause you to feel bad and can cause you to feel that you are sick, and you are upset.  They can come out of nowhere.

They will take what you have and give you their hopelessness and they will have no empathy for what they are doing to you.  They will take your energy and you will no longer be able to focus on positive things.

These people want to manipulate you and make you do things for them and meet just their needs.

Presence in Affect

Even when you are done talking or being around an energy vampire, their draining powers stay on you.  They will leave you feeling emotionally tired and they will cause you to question who you are.  They will use drama and their mindset to leave you depressed and down.

Energetic

After you are away from an energy vampire for a while, you will find that you are able to recoup.  You will feel that you have a weight lifted off of your shoulders and you will feel renewed and better.  If you do find that you have to interact with them again, you will not be able to deal with their chaos.

Small Conversations

Even the tiniest conversations leave you feeling confused and upset.  They will not take responsibility for their actions and they refuse to answer you with real answers.  They have no respect for you and are defensive when you say something about their behavior.

Toxicity

An emotional vampire will feed off of your positive energy and make you feel like you have lost all good things about yourself.  You will not longer have self-confidence and you will feel sadness instead of joy.

An energy vampire can turn you into an energy vampire by their actions, just like a real vampire can turn a person into a vampire.  The more you are around their toxic behavior, the worse things will get and the more emotional you will be.

When someone is a victim of a narcissist, they will see the toxic traits that that person has. An empath has the hardest time dealing with toxic behavior and they will be the prey to the predator when they deal with these types of people.

Filling Their Own Needs

An emotional vampire will only be one sided meaning that they only care about themselves.  They will be happy when they take over the conversation and turn it into something negative.  They will never consider how you feel, and they will try to control everything that is going on in the room.

Sabotage

Emotional vampires want to cause you to be a victim.  They know that you have things in order in your life and they are jealous of this.  They want to have what you have, and they want to do away with your success instead of celebrating it.

Ploys and Schemes

These people can do something to try to ruin you such as praising someone other than you and attempting to hide the good things about you.  They will make a name for who they are and will take the spotlight from you or anyone that is good.

What to Do

When you are part of an emotional vampire’s life, you have to make sure to cut them off as much as you can.  Do not be in contact with them and stop going around them.  This can help you to be free from them emotionally.

Don’t reason with these types of people because it will never work.  When you have experienced them, do something that will give you life such as go for a walk, go into nature, take a workout class or do whatever you can to reach your goals, dreams and your happiness.

Detox yourself from these types of people and hang out with people that are really your friends and not people that want to steal your joy.

Non-Attachment

Non-Attachment

Some people think that being non-attached is an emotional thing and means that someone has no feelings and is not emotional but the truth is that having non-attachment means that we live in a world where we are not attached to people or thoughts that cause us to suffer.

Being non-attachment means that you do not have the desire to fight and you want to understand the universe and the mysteries of life.  You have a lot of peace and you rest in the moment.  You detach yourself so that you do not get hurt and so that you have nothing that holds you back.

There are perspectives of being non-attached that show that you are not only religious but that you are one with the universe as well.

Non-Attachment

Non-attachment means that you are learning to let go of your suffering and that you are not allowing your emotions to hurt you.  When you let go of your thoughts and your feelings you have relief and peace and you are able to have well-being in your life.

How can you let go of your thoughts and emotions?  You can do this by being mindful and aware of what is going on around you.  When you allow life to be natural and you stop being attached to things, you will have different opinions and you will be able to allow yourself to life a life of peace and happiness.

Non-attachment means that you let go of physical and non-physical things and that you die to yourself.  You find out what is true, and you live inside of yourself.  This is reaching a deep level and going back to your higher self by letting go of external things.

Benefits of Being Non-Attached

When you hang on to things internally and emotional things, you will see that things are not able to be surrendered.  Here are some ways that you can surrender to yourself and learn to practice acceptance.

  • You don’t let your emotions control you.
  • You let go of dread and anxiety.
  • You are spontaneous.
  • You become open.
  • You are peaceful with yourself.
  • You feel relaxed and are passive.
  • You are able to face loss.
  • You know freedom because you are not a slave to your mind.
  • You are whole and happy.
  • You love others more than yourself.
  • You are not attached to beliefs of others.
  • You love yourself more.
  • You let life unfold naturally.
  • You are not addicted to material things.
  • You are more grounded.
  • You feel love and compassion.
  • You chase happiness.

When you do not judge life and you find inner peace, you will let good things be good and bad things be bad.  You will let go of anger and sadness.

Problems with Attaching

When you hear about non-attachment, it causes you to think of a way to want to have no desire.  The point of non-attachment is to pay attention to what occupies your mind.  You find what drives you and what happiness you are seeking.

Non-attachment helps you to know what is happening within you but also allows you to attach to things that you don’t want to attach to.  You have to not have a desire to be non-attached or you become attached to that.

Kinds of Attachment

For you to transform you have to discover what attachments you have in this world.

Material Attachment

People go through stages of being attached to things that money can buy.  Learn to let go of things and to not want things of this world.

When you are happy and secure because you have things then you have to realize that your treasures on this earth are not everlasting and they can cause you to be attached to things that you can lose.  If you have these desires, chances are you have attachment issues:

  • Love homes and designer clothing.
  • You get self-esteem from what you have.
  • You dream about having a bigger house.
  • You go on shopping sprees.
  • You can’t stand losing your things in a natural disaster.
  • You feel like you can’t live without things.
  • You feel like your possessions make you who you are.
  • You get upset when things become sold out.

Personal Attachment

Having a personal attachment means that you are attached to a person and you need them to feel validated.

Many people fall in the trap of loving someone so that they can make us feel better about ourselves.  This person gains their love and acceptance and there are different styles of attachment that can cause you to love unconditionally no matter what the person does in your life.

You know you struggle from personal attachment if you have these:

  • Emotionally cut people off when they cause problems.
  • Feeling lost and alone when you are not with someone.
  • Have a hard time forgiving people.
  • You are needy and clingy.
  • You have self-destructive behavior.

Thought Attachment

Thought attachments are when you have emotional and interpersonal attachments to beliefs.  You feel negative and you shoot yourself by attaching yourself to these thoughts.  You feel that you are no good and you are never able to change.

People that have these thoughts are attached to their thoughts and they have emotional tensions and harm that make them feel that they are not good enough.

Non-attachment can be a thought and does not have to be a thing.  You have to learn to quiet your mind and you can do this by meditating.  You can control your thoughts and know your consciousness through thought and sometimes you can be trapped with your thoughts of the world.

You know you struggle with thought attachments if you have these things:

  • Want to figure things all out.
  • Are judgement of yourself.
  • Stereotype people.
  • Believe that things are all good or all bad.
  • See the world in black and white.
  • Get lost in daydreaming
  • Feel controlled by thoughts.

If you feel that you can relate to any of these attachments, then it is okay because it just makes you human.  Be aware of your attachments and know when you are putting your life to seek out attachments instead of being non-attached.

Being Non-Attached

There are ways that you can learn to be non-attached and here is how:

Stop Looking for Happiness

Stop looking for happiness in the wrong places and outside of yourself.  You need to find ways to be happy and peaceful with who you are.

Musts

Find ways that you can be nicer and that you can stop feeling like you are a failure.  Do not let your expectations meet your needs but learn to be happy inside of who you are.

Allow

Allow life to be how it is and allow your emotions to be free.  Learn to have joy and stop suffering.

Friends with Uncertainty

You cannot be in control of all things.  You have to resist being anxious and paranoid about things.  You have to feel calm and open and allow yourself to have a life where there are no limits and where you can be uncertain about things.  You will need to accept that surprises can happen and be okay with it.

Observe Your Thoughts

Pay attention to the thoughts that you have and meditate on a regular basis.  Meditating will help you to stay grounded and this can change your energy levels.  The more that you are self-aware of your life, the more readily you will be able to stop the pain that thoughts cause you.

See Through Things

Look at your life and you will see that things do not last forever.  Things will eventually die, and you will be saddened but this gives you the chance to have full joy.  If things lasted forever, then life would not be appreciated, and neither would death.  Appreciate things while you have it and allow things to be changed.  Allow things to bring you surprises.

Conclusion

Non-attachment means to let things go.  If you want to be unattached you can be enlightened and grounded.  Being non-attached means that you are living in awareness and you are happy for who you are.

When Your Best Friend Becomes Your Soulmate

When Your Best Friend Becomes Your Soulmate

Partners will come and go but we will hold on to our best friends forever and ever.  A soulmate comes and he or she is not just a romantic partner, but they will be your best friend.  They will be the person that you share all of your secrets with, possible sex, romance and maybe even marriage.  You will see that your life is never the same and that they are your true friend.  This type of relationship is more than most people can imagine.

A soulmate is someone that tells you secrets, someone that you naturally connect with.  Many people are lucky to have friends like this and these soulmates will become your best friend.

First Meeting

The first time that you meet them, you will know that you are meant to be around this person.  You will naturally connect and feel like you have known them forever.

Asking for Help

When you have to rely on someone for something important, this can help you bond with that person.  When this happens with your soulmate, you will forever be bonded with them.  Not just because you are vulnerable, but because you know that it will be handled with care and that when you are hurting or in need, they will be there for you.

If you need real advice or just someone to be there for you, your soulmate will help you just because they love you.

Spending Time with Them

When you meet your soulmate, you will want to spend all of your time with them.  You will never get enough of them.

Other Child

You will be around your soulmate so much that his or her parents will refer to you as “the other child.”

Serious Talk

When you talk to your soulmate, they will not judge you or be rude to you just because you have an opinion.

Staying In

You will see that you get enough entertainment just sitting around the house and watching TV and eating takeout.

Opening Up

You will share all of your childhood memories and things that have bothered you with your soulmate.  You will open up to them like no one else and you will tell all of your secrets and the things that you have kept from everyone else.

Secrets

Not only will you tell your soulmate everything, you will also tell them your deepest, darkest secrets and your fantasies.

Chatting

You will find that you want to talk to your soulmate all the time and you will send texts and emoji’s all day long.

Calling Them

Your soulmate will be the first person you want to call when you hear something.  They will have your whole heart and soul and you will want to tell them everything.

Defending You

When you aren’t around, your soulmate will defend you.  If someone is complaining about you or talking bad about you, they will not let them, and they will give you a good name.

When They Defend You

When you find out that your soulmate defended you, you will now you met a good one.  Plus, you would defend them the same.

Doing Nothing

You will enjoy all of your time with your soulmate, even doing nothing.  When you are riding in the car or watching tv, you will realize you have sat there all evening and done nothing.  This is because you are comfortable with them.

Relationship

People will accuse you of being in a relationship because you are always together.

I Wish

When people accuse you of being in a relationship, you will wish that it was true.  Maybe someday you will even marry them.

Soul Contracts

Soul Contracts

When you are in a relationship, you will find peace and solace in it.  These relationships can be peaceful but if they cause you stress then you will have a hard time seeing the beauty of this relationship.  When things go wrong in your relationship or your marriage, you will have a hard time of seeing this as a divine meeting and you will want to break up and find something new.

Even when bad things happen, this is part of your spiritual growth and this can all be your soul contracts.

A soul contract is an agreement that you make when you get into relationships with people.  These people will come into your life to teach you things and will show you what your life is supposed to be like and what will come to you in the future.

Each person that you meet will be part of your contract and is a planned meeting that the universe had for you.  Soul contracts are spiritual contracts that are between you and someone else or you and many people.  They will come to teach you lessons and give you direction about where you should go in your life.

A soul contract can be an experience and there will be different relationships that teach you things.  You might have a lover or a partner or a boss that will be part of your soul contract.  There are different types of soul contracts, mainly three main ones including a soulmate, bump and a twin flame contract.  Remember, some of these happen once and some will happen over and over again.

Soulmate

When you have a soulmate contract, you will be chosen, and this will help to develop your soul and your heart.  The purpose of the soulmate is to help you to grow in your life.  If someone has hurt you and left you, most likely this is one of your soulmates.  They will cause you to feel like your life is never going to be the same and to feel like you have lost all happiness.

When you have a love-hate relationship with someone, a soulmate will teach you to have true love and will help you to break down barriers that you have put up with people.  You will have a soulmate for a time but not for life.  They are not meant to be with you forever.  These types of relationships are strong and passionate, but they will be painful in the end.

Most of the time, a soulmate relationship will show you how to grow and will teach you lessons that otherwise would be hard to learn.  Once the contract is fulfilled, the lesson is learned, and the relationship will likely end.

Bump

A bump contract is when you have been involved with someone in your past life.  This is a connection that allows you to go down a spiritual path.  When you have a soul, you realize that you are in situations that can distract you from the work that you are supposed to be doing.

A bump contract will help you to be able to be on track.  These contracts will be intense and will get you out of a routine.  They will remind you what your direction is and will most of the time be romantic encounters that you will have.  This type of contract will bump you to a new level in your mind.

A bump contract will not be long term and will usually just be a change and will cause you to change paths in life.

Twin Flame

Twin flame contracts only happen once in your life.  This is when your soul and your twin flame soul come together to complete each person.  The twin flame will be an instant connection and it will be like you have loved and known the person forever, even when you just meet them.

You will know that you have a twin flame if:

  • The attraction you have doesn’t make sense.
  • You feel complete when you are with the person.
  • You feel a magnetic pull towards them.
  • They complement you.
  • They feel like they are with you even when you are far away.
  • You feel close to them.
  • You feel like your life is complete when you find them.
  • You will do things at the same time such as speak, text and call each other.

When your twin flame contract is fulfilled, it can bring you peace that twill last forever.

Another type of twin flame contract is when you connect with them and then they disconnect from you.  When this happens, it means that they are running from you and it can be hard and heartbreaking to go through.  This means that it cannot be rushed and there will be a time in the future when they are ready to connect with you again.  Sometimes, one person in the relationship is ready to go further and the other person doesn’t want to deal with it right now.  This can be painful to the person who does.

Sometimes the twin flame will run from the relationship and will be called the runner and the connection ill be so strong, but it will also be confusing.  There will be telepathy between the two and both are going to feel the magnetic pull that cannot be broken.

When someone has to deal with this type of twin flame, they will have to find out what they are feeling.  They might already be committed to another relationship and this will make things hard at the time of the contract.  Twin flame contracts do not usually happen at the best times.

There are some reasons why a twin flame relationship will not work at the time and that is because of religious beliefs, age differences and being in a different relationship.  This contract can be a curse and a gift all in the same.

These soul contracts are very strong and are meant to fulfill your life.  They can bring pain and stress and it is important for the person to know what perspective the universe is trying to show you.  You need to know what you are going to gain from this experience and learn to not get lost in the pain of it.  Learn to think of these soul contracts as a lesson.

Thank your friend or your family or your lover for the lesson that they have taught you and for helping you to fulfill your life lesson and to see your soul keep growing towards the higher self.

6 Signs that Signal You’re a Lightworker

6 Signs that Signal You’re a Lightworker

Lightworkers are essential to helping to heal the planet in times of tragedy, chaos, greed and divisiveness.  They use their gifts in a variety of ways, such as reiki, acupuncture, medicine, activism, artistic expression, counseling and teaching.  Often lightworkers are not aware of their soul path, but are driven by a desire to help other and illuminate the darkness in the world with love and light.

If you think you or someone you love might be a lightworker, here are six common traits:

  1. Sensitivity

Lightworkers have a strong gift for empathy.  This can be expressed in a myriad of ways including emotional, physical and spiritual methods.  They can also become overwhelmed easily and have intolerances to types of fabric, sounds, sights, and foods.  Unfortunately, if they are around people with strong negativity, they can absorb this toxicity more readily.

  1. Draw towards spirituality over dogmatic religions.

Lightworkers have a desire for more fluidity with their relationship to the divine.  Also, more spiritual driven religions can be more tolerant with mysticism and metaphysical practices like clairsenses and divination work.

  1. Feeling like a misfit or seeming older than their years

Lightworkers have a tendency to not fit into the mainstream easily.  They frequently have a preference for being around older individuals and crave absorbing their stories or wisdom.  Although it can be difficult to feel “different” than other people, once you understand this distance helps gives you more clarity and perspective, you can begin to feel more peace.

  1. Gravitates towards nature

It might seem like if a lightworker feels upset or ill, access to nature is their best medicine.  Being in nature can help to slow down one’s breathing and help shift perspective.  Also, when a lightworker is around animals or nature for an extended period they can see the quiet ways the Divine works and feel the Universe’s energy flow more deeply.

  1. Psychic Abilities

Lightworkers are born with an innate psychic ability.  Whether a talent for tarot or rune reading, dreamwork or reiki, a lightworker has a drive to help people make sense out of chaos.  Also, lightworkers when face with crossroads are able to pull deep into themselves and access their inner wisdom and make decisions quickly that can best advance their self-growth.

  1. Quick Thinking and Acting

There is a sense of bravery and daring that is common with lightworkers.  They can think and act quickly because they have a close-knit bond with the Divine and intuitively trust they thing will work out for the best.  To them the Universe is their partner and not adversary in becoming more enlightened.  Frequently, lightworkers will get senses that it’s time to leave a job or relationship prior to facing extreme hardships, and ultimately these departures allow them to embark on new opportunities that benefit their lifestyle.

Being a lightworker is a blessing although it can be tough at times to process.  These people are bold, yet sensitive, strong yet gentle and can be intimating for people who are uncomfortable with shades of grey.  Lightworkers will still love and fight for all people, even those that don’t understand them.  Lightworkers are driven by righteousness, justice, community empowerment and unification.  It is their calling to actively make the world a better place, filled with more light and love.  Whether you or someone you love is a lightworker, it is important to promote and support this powerful work.