If you are an empath, you already know that you can feel energies and emotions of other people as if they are your own. This sensitivity sets you up for blessings when it comes to love. Empaths are often highly compassionate and supportive of their partners. However, being an empath can also set you up for unique challenges when it comes to lovers. The biggest challenges empaths tend to face in relationships are shared below. Also included are how to navigate these challenges so you can enjoy a healthy love life that is also nourishing. If you do not have a partner at the moment, keep reading to learn how to navigate any form of a relationship as an empath.
Getting Closer and Fearing Empathy
Some empaths choose to avoid dating or any romantic commitment because they can easily be overwhelmed by their partner’s emotions. Empaths like to have space to give their system a break from the overstimulation of the world or other people. If you are a single empath and happy, that is wonderful, but if you are an empath who wants to be in a committed relationship, remember that the sensitivity does not have to hinder you. You can be in a successful partnership and still maintain a need for space. If you are already in a committed relationship, create some space for yourself to improve things overall. Remember, you do not need to be with another empath for someone to understand a need for space. Let your partner know you need to regularly take some space and time alone, especially when overwhelmed.
Prioritizing a Partner’s Needs in an Unbalanced Manner
Many empaths take too long to realize that they are prioritizing their partner’s wishes over their own and then struggling over asserting themselves in a relationship. This is often to keep from feeling the strong emotions of the other person and can lead to people pleasing. Empaths need to practice asserting themselves and voicing needs regularly. This makes it easier over time to ask for what you need which is important to health. In a relationship, no one person should dominate or be allowed to dominate, so stand up for what you want and need.
For the empath, it is easy to get lost in the emotions of the other person, but clear emotional boundaries are needed for wellbeing and a balanced relationship. Humans bond deeply when it comes to lovers and partners, but for the empath this can becoming merging without boundaries. If you are feeling emotions out of the blue, stop to determine if they are yours or belong to your partner. Even intense joy can be draining when it is not your own. Allow your partner to have their emotional experience with the knowledge you do not always have to feel it as well. Keep a shared experience bubble with your partner, but also one for yourself. Cultivate interests, friendships, and hobbies separate from those shared with a partner. Maintain grounding practices to keep you centered as well.
Tuning in Without Observation or Witnessing
An empath’s default is to tune in to what is around them. Being able to feel what others feel is useful, but if it is the only way you navigate, it can leave you both drained and overwhelmed. While tuning into a partner can sometimes be nourishing and supportive, the opposite can also be true. This is especially true when we feel overwhelmed and drained. Learn about witnessing so you can observe your partner from a neutral energetic place. This allows you to receive intuitive information, but able to tune out what is becoming overwhelming. All empaths should have this ability.
Trying to Manage, Change, or Contain a Partner’s Emotions
Empaths feel a partner’s emotions as their own and can mistake this for being responsible for those emotions. Consider that your partner’s emotions are their business, not yours. You need to let them feel and deal with those emotions their way without trying to change the feelings for them. Encourage maturity and emotional intelligence in a relationship by discussing how emotions affect each other. If your partner processes emotions in an unhealthy way, ask them to seek help. With awareness and tools to manage emotions, patterns can shift and both of you end up healthier.